Elder Holland emphasizes Charity- the pure love of christ and how we should exercise Charity in all relationships especially our marriages. "It doesn't come without effort and it doesn't come without patience but, like salvation itself, in the end it is a gift given by God to the true followers of his son Jesus Christ." Everybody falls short of perfect love. We strive to meet the love that Christ showed us, but sometimes we fall short. I have learned to not expect perfection. People make mistakes especially ourselves and disappointment sets it. The beauty in imperfection is that there is always room to improve.
Love=Faith. Giving ourselves totally to another person is a true act of faith. Marriage is faith. I have learned you have to have faith in your spouse to have a happy marriage. Without faith a happy marriage is a worried marriage. Elder Holland states that to succeed in love you need to hold on as tightly as you can to the other person and jump into the pool together. Marriage is we not me. That is the joy in marriage, always having someone to turn to in need. It is not a scary thing it is an exciting thing.
Another thing I have learned is how much Jordan strengthens me. He is always bettering himself spiritually. I get nervous when he goes to Desert Book because I know he is going to come home with 2 or 3 books on the history of the church. I love his drive he has for learning. He told me one time that if he could he would be a church historian and for his birthday he wanted to go to the church history museum. He said the more he learns about the church the more true it becomes. He has definitely taught me so much and is continually teaching me and making me a better person.
Link to Elder Holland's talk https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/jeffrey-r-holland_how-do-i-love-thee/
